The social movements transpire to indicate the beginning

The years in which biological, emotional, physical
and social movements transpire to indicate the beginning of adulthood and
signify the end of childhood is defined as adolescence. During those crucial
years, adolescents establish themselves at the mercy of ignorance, the
judgement of others, lack of experience, and the unexpected. Throughout the
course, it has been made clear through the perspective of society, that
adolescents are considered as worrisome problems. This is due to the reason
that parents believe their choices genuinely impact their children’s future. They
believe that they have the power to establish who their adolescents are going
to be. All parents have the desire to succeed at one prominent goal, that is,
to raise the most well-rounded, self-reliant, high spirited and ultimately, the
most successful leaders of the future. Their sense of need to push their
adolescents to their maximum potential is driven by their fear of their child
failing in this progressively competitive and unpredictable world where success
can’t be guaranteed. Ultimately, I firmly believe that parents are sincerely
burdened by things that are out of their control, such as endless news about
violence, a possibly collapsing economy or even university admissions, and
therefore, they displace all of the fears of things they cannot control onto
the one thing that they believe they have control over, and that is their
adolescents.

Adolescents are always approached with doubt, due to
the fact that many underestimate their potential, intelligence, strengths,
talents, qualifications, and capabilities. I firmly believe that no matter what
teenagers do, or which approach they decide to take, they will always be
negatively critiqued by society. A crucial example of this is the controversial
topic of the employment of teenagers. If a teenager decides to get a part-time job,
the negative backlash and comments of, “it will impact their ability to do
schoolwork,” “them not being able to work effectively in school will impact
their grades,” “this in return, will after their future opportunity of getting
a job, thus ultimately hindering their success in society,” “every hour that a
teenager spends working, is an hour that they cannot spend studying,
volunteering or playing any extracurricular activities.”  In addition, it is recognized that having a
part-time job as an adolescent inhibits their ability to get their need based
financial aid. Furthermore, many believe that having a job would lead teenagers
to have a materialistic understanding about money. That they would associate
freedom, maturity and self-efficiency on the amount of money that they have in
their bank account.  On the other hand,
if they choose to be unemployed, teenagers would also suffer from an adverse
reaction from society. Pessimistic remarks such as not being self-responsible,
immature, lazy, and spoiled would be thrown at them. Moreover, being unemployed
would not teach them humility, appreciation for hard work, gaining experience
on how to save/spend their money nor strengthen their social skills. Conclusively,
they cannot win in any situation because people always look for a problem in
adolescents. Furthermore, parents have a habit of ‘chain worrying’ and an
example of this is, if a teenager fails one test, it leads to the parental
worry about failing multiple other courses leading to the worry about failing a
course or multiple other ones leading to the worry about not graduating high
school leading the worry about to not being employable leading to the worry
about not being self reliant leading to the ultimate vision of their teenager
living on the streets surviving off of handouts from others. During Dr.Penner’s
lecture about ‘Teenagers and Employment’ he voiced a crucial point, which
states, ‘our society isn’t embracing our teenagers with the way they are, but
treating them with concern because we fear for our adolescents and treat them
with apprehension considering we find this world a scary place, thus we are
concerned about how are adolescents are going to adjust.”  It is in every parent’s character and
disposition to view his or her children in ways most other people don’t. While
I do believe that parents love and care for their children and want what is
best for them, I’d like to suggest that what they believe is best for their
child is profoundly influenced by society’s principles. Although parents like
to tell themselves that society’s view doesn’t affect their parental decisions,
I am convinced otherwise. Therefore, parents who listen to society’s
perspective of teenagers who are employed, thus will have unacceptable grades
and a shallow chance of getting a successful job, will urge the idea of
unemployment, so their child would rather focus their time on school in order
to secure their opportunities of receiving a rewarding career in the future. Oppositely,
parents who endorse the idea of employment upon their children, in order for
their adolescent to develop a sense of humility, be self responsible, learn how
to efficiently deal with their money, and build their character, are ones who
are impacted by society’s view of teenagers who are not self reliant, careless
with money and immature due to the reason that they are unemployed.

            Adolescents are always criticized, inspected, questioned and judged in
everything that they do. Another disputed topic concerning teenagers is if they
are sexually active. It is widely recognized that around the age of 16,
teenagers are sexual by nature. During Dr.Penner’s lecture, ‘Teenage
Sexuality,’ he articulated an essential point that declares, “Teenagers find
sex interesting, exciting, and thrilling, has promises of adulthood, and most
importantly, it signifies to them that they are not children anymore.” Parents
are concerned for their adolescents having sex for various reasons. Health
concerns such as STDs or STIs or even HIV, is a predominant factor that
contributes to the fear of parents. Although health concerns is a valid fear
that parents have, I believe that the apprehension for teenagers also goes
beyond health worries. Another contributing factor is the difficulty for
parents to let go of their children especially, the image of their teenager as
a child. No parent wants to see their child grow up and mature so fast, thus
they’d like to think that their teenagers are still vulnerable, innocent
children, who constantly need their parents. Due to the reason that parents
have a hard time grasping that this is not the case, they tend to get
uncomfortable and even angry upon knowing that their teenager is sexually
active because for them, it means losing their child to the arms of someone
else who is also giving them love and attention. I’d like to propose that
parents even tend to get jealous that their teenager is looking for love,
security, safety and attention from someone else, as if their own love that
they have for their teenager isn’t enough for them. In addition to this,
parents get offended and feel that it is a slap in the face that their
adolescent is sexually active, because they realize their child themselves, is
giving their love and affection to someone else other than them. They are not
fond of the fact that their teenager is open to the idea of human connection
with others that includes feeling emotionally, physically and spiritually united
with someone else other than them. Teenage pregnancy is a concept that
frightens the majority, if not, all parents because they view it as some sort
of contamination that is destined to ruin the lives and future of their
teenagers. Moreover, parents are bothered by the fact that they are the ones
who are going to be responsible for the product of an accidental pregnancy. I
genuinely concur with parents about their concern for teenage pregnancy because
I believe the closer the relationship one has to another person, the more
responsible that person feels for the other. Due to the fact that parents have
paternalistic responsibilities in relation to their children, it is assumed
that they would feel the same way towards their teenagers’ children. They don’t
want their adolescents’ lives and future success to be put in jeopardy for a
mistake that could have been easily prevented. Parents have enough going on in
their daily lives, and they already have the responsibility for their own
children, they do not want to take responsibility for their teenagers’ mistake.
They know that in order to raise a child properly, pushing limits and
boundaries is required, thus they don’t want their teenager to have that burden
put on them so soon. At the same time, parents need to comprehend that worry
does not equal prevention. They can feel alarmed for their teenager all they
want and attempt to prohibit them from being sexually active, but in reality they
grasp that that is impossible, and the outcome would result in a damaged
relationship between them and their adolescent.  All that they have control over, is the
ability to educate their teenager about how to be responsible by using
protection and the potential disastrous consequences that arise from being
irresponsible.

Adolescents especially in today’s society are
subjected to an enormous amount of judgement, concern and negative remarks due
to their reliance on technology. A significant example of this is the debatable
topic of ‘is the internet impairing adolescent’s ability to learn?’ I believe
that the use of the internet for educational purposes has some positive
benefits. It allows for teachers to give students extra resources to broaden
their knowledge about certain topics. If a teenager doesn’t attend a class for
whatever reason, the internet can be useful for them to google the topic and
learn from it or they can get in contact with the teacher or even their
classmates to ask for clarification. Additionally, when working on group
projects, teenagers can work with a high degree of efficiency with their peers,
when not everyone can physically attend the group meetings. Society always has
something negative to declare about adolescents, this results in the parents
being impacted by society’s standpoint, thus they disregard any positive
benefits of the internet for their adolescents and aim their attention on the pessimistic
arguments. I firmly conclude that society constantly presents parents with
reasons to worry about their adolescents and they always take those reasons
into consideration, whether consciously or unconsciously, when parenting their
children. Parents are concerned with their adolescent’s use of the internet for
education purposes for the reason that they tend to heavily rely on it, thus diminishing
their capacity to use their own minds in order to attain their own speculations,
reflections, viewpoints and conclusions. Parents’ concern for their child’s
dependence on the internet is authentic and accurate because they want their
teenagers to genuinely learn which means to take what has been presented, and examine
it, explore it, inspect it and investigate it instead of solely accepting it, without
asking any questions. They aim their attention on making it certain that their
teenagers’ talents and skills are groomed for success. Moreover, I believe that
parents may be envious of the fact that their teenagers have access to the internet
which takes seconds for them to access hundreds of relevant articles, while many
generations ago, parents had to spend hours upon hours in the library reading
and browsing through numerous books and journals in order to understand and
learn information. During Dr.Penner’s lecture, ‘Less Knowledge Maybe, But
Dumber?’ he presented a vital point that explains, ‘Due to the reason that
teenagers have immediate access to a world of information, they essentially
learn to easily click, copy and paste with no effort in taking the time to
learn, discern, master nor tolerate the information they are researching, thus
they only learn how to accept.” Teenagers’ laziness and lack of effort to
sincerely learn causes a tremendous amount of anxiety for parents as it demolishes
their potentials to hold arguments, debates, disputes and diversified
conversations. Parents believe that teenagers are not learning due to their
heavy reliance on the internet thus, they are stripping themselves of the
opportunity to utilize their brains intelligently. Another unease that parents
have regarding the use of the internet by their adolescents, is their rapidly
declining aspiration to obtain information which is due to the lack of interest
teenagers occupy. The lack of interest to learn emerges from the mentality that
learning is tedious, uninteresting and irrelevant. Teenagers have to be
passionate about what they are learning about and it must be of importance and advantage
to them. Pressuring adolescents to learn about subject matters that they have
no fascination for is counterproductive. This troubles parents considering that
they want their adolescents to be well-rounded, intelligent and successful
people in this increasingly competitive world, thus they would rather have
their teenagers learn about a variety of subject matters than for them to only
grasp what interests them because they want them to be able to fall back on
numerous possibilities for their successful future careers.  

Every parent has the instinct to protect their children
from harm, to make sure they are healthy, safe, and most importantly, that they
are self-efficient and successful. Ultimately, while I do believe that parents’
concern for their adolescents is driven by their love for them, I’d also like
to suggest that they inevitably want their offspring to acquire extraordinary attributes
that reflect favourably on their parenting skills.  Parents tend to assess their self-worth and
validation through their children’s achievements. Part of their motive for
their goal to raise successful leaders in this world is to receive the
satisfaction that they have done an outstanding job as parents. Furthermore,
parents need to recognize that the decision to worry is theirs alone and that
their adolescents aren’t the cause. If they believe that their teenager is
causing them to constantly worry, they will eventually lash out on their
adolescent for controlling their fear, when in reality, their fear is up to
them. This will result in a damaged relationship between the parent and the
adolescent. Society consistently craves for parents to constantly worry about
their adolescents, this in return leads parents to expect something wrong with
their child, and then when they discover what is wrong, they attempt to repair
what is troubling them, provoking them to inadvertently create it. Conclusively, I believe that it is necessary for both
parents and society to recognize that adolescents are people, and individuals, neither
robots nor globs of clay that they can mold to their desires, ambitions nor
aspirations.

 

 

 

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